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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Haven't read all 17 pgs but my answer is - bc it doesn't feel good to have to say my snowflake didn't get into an Ivy; rather it feels better and easier to stay "positive" and explain why JMU or Mason or wherever is better than an Ivy anyway due to finances, location, or whatever other reason that family latches onto.

[b]It's not complicated - it's the human need to not admit defeat, failure or inadequacy.[[/b]/quote]

Obviously. Crazy that it took 18 pages before someone just admitted this.[/quote]

This. For many families, college admissions is the FIRST time that their kid hasn't been the best. Many of these kids whose parents post here have gone thru school with straight As since pre-k; teachers have always loved their kid and talked about how they are such a star student, leader etc; they've been elected team captains and student body president without that much struggle -just hard work. They and their parents have an air about themselves being from SUCH a good school district in SUCH a good area like the DMV and coming from SUCH a great, supportive, wealthy-ish family. Then comes college admissions. There are about 35k high schools in America - public and private combined. Which means there are 35k valedictorians, student body presidents and many many team captains in every sport under the sun. And there are 8 ivys, each with an undergrad class of 2000 or sometimes less. You do the math . . . .

And yet even in their 40s-50s, most parents DO NOT have the ability to admit that their kid just was NOT the best out of that pool, even though they may be the best in Herdon or Bethesda or wherever. So then the excuse making starts and PP is right -- parents start latching onto finances; fit; etc. Even though we ALL know that had Harvard (or even Cornell) come through, they woud have spent the money and/or found that the fit was just right. It's a psychology thing.  [/quote]

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