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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Haven't read all 17 pgs but my answer is - bc it doesn't feel good to have to say my snowflake didn't get into an Ivy; rather it feels better and easier to stay "positive" and explain why JMU or Mason or wherever is better than an Ivy anyway due to [b]finances, location, or whatever other reason that family latches onto.
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It's not complicated - it's the human need to not admit defeat, failure or inadequacy.[/quote]

"Fit," don't forget fit.  This is the usually the giveaway.[/quote]

Yep -- fit is another big one. Or that JMU or Mason or whatever offer that super specific major in 14th century French literature that their child has always yearned of and would you believe that despite charging 70k per yr UPenn would NOT let her create such a major and to follow her passions, well, that right there is why we said NO THANK YOU to a Penn degree.

PP hit it on the head though. It is a lot "easier" mentally to stay positive about why JMU is better -- be it fit or finances or whatever -- than to admit that the snowflake that you have bragged about since birth just cannot make the cut for an Ivy/Stanford/MIT/etc. Frankly when a parent starts talking about how an Ivy isn't worth it financially; they didn't even like their Stanford experience; it doesn't matter where you go to school anyway; I work with all state school grads and we're all rich so what does it matter etc. and then start singing the praises of VCU or Maryland or wherever, I just go into "smile and nod" mode. I respect it far more when parents can say -- well he applied to the Ivys and didn't get in, so he is headed to Wherever bc that has a decent engineering program. Yet it's a RARE parent that can admit this.
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