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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]FYI, spanking is not discipline. It's punishment. Discipline teaches, punishment punishes and then scares. If that's what you want to do fine, but let's call it what it is. Lots of things "work" with kids but that doesn't mean they are effective in the long run. It would also be really quick and easy for me to give in to every single thing my 3 year old wants. We'd never have tantrums and he'd be happy as a clam. I'd also be raising a monster. No one likes disciplining their kid, but you are raising an adult, not a kid and you have to think about who you want that adult to be. Teaching children to think through their actions, to explain cause-and-effect and to think, will help them much more in the long run. Not to mention that children learn all about what to expect in relationships from their parents. I certainly wouldn't allow someone to hit me when they didn't like something I did so why should our children expect to be hit? Sure, there are lots of things kids can't do or expect, that adults can, but there is nothing about respect and the give and take of a relationship that differs, whether you are talking about an adult or a child.

As for the studies, yes they are mixed. Some of them are garbage (on both sides). And generally, if children are in a loving home where their needs are met they will probably be fine whether you spank or not. But there is absolutely no evidence that it works, in the long term, to teach kids anything about behavior, relationships, or consequences.

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It definitely teaches about consequences. However, it's certainly not the ONLY thing you would ever do in terms of teaching and discipline, so saying that it works, but doesn't teach about "relationships" is more than a little disingenuous. It's a punishment to correct bad behavior in that moment. If it works in the short term, it works. [/quote]

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