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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]You sound like my SIL, OP. My children have multiple allergies, including gluten and dairy. My SIL showed up at every single family gathering with a food that my child could not eat. She'd always say, "Oh, Larla can't eat the BUTTER on the green beans?" Everyone else respected my DC's allergies and brought food she could eat. But my SIL always wanted her kids "favorites."

My child could die if she eats certain foods. Everyone in the family understands and respects this, except for SIL., who found it a total PITA to bring an allergen-free food to a family holiday celebration.

My entire family eats GF foods. There are lots that are fine. They are indistinguishable from wheat-based foods: breads, pasta, cookies, cakes, etc.

As a PP said, it's really difficult to feed a child with multiple allergies. Be grateful you only have to feed your children GF foods for a few days. You have it easy, OP. Gratitude is the key to happiness. [/quote]

deep sigh....eyes rolling[/quote]

no kidding. Can't believe the sancimommies on this thread. Nothing OP has said indicates that she is like the SIL above, yet all these people are projecting every negative thing they can think of on her.[/quote]

It's like this: when you hear about a two year old family member with a serious, chronic illness that requires special dietary needs, you accommodate those needs. It's a few days of dealing with it  for your family. That kid is going to deal with it for the rest of his life.

Arguing about it makes you a selfish asshole. You haven't talked to the kid's doctors or specialists. You haven't gone through the patient education.  You haven't read the bazillion pages of research that the kid's mom has read in order to understand the disease. If you argue about it, you are an asshole.  That includes OP.[/quote]

I've argued pretty hard that I don't think that a gluten free kitchen is unresasonable at all, and that Grandma's need to not be woken up or have her work de-glutening the kitchen needs to be taken into account.  But I'll also say that I haven't seen anything here that OP has posted that seems at all "assholish".  She's been pretty clear from the beginning that she wants to keep her nephew safe, and has asked whether pb&j in her room is an option.  She's not arguing, she's asking.

Now, some other posters on this thread have absolutely come across as complete assholes, but OP is not among them. [/quote]

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