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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Yes we have. We said if either one of us are unhappy in the marriage we'll talk to each other first and figure out how to work through it.[/quote]

Okay. So you think that in his first marriage, he just did not talk about any of the things that he now cites as reasons that he should not have gotten married / that made it okay for him to cheat / that they are divorced? Because I guarantee you, they talked about it and probably came up with some ways to work through it. Then when she didn't do her part (or didn't do her part as much or as well as he wanted to be "satisfied"), instead of talking about it - even to say, "This isn't working, I think we should separate" - he pursued you.

It is easy to say "I wouldn't stop doing X or Y" and "We will talk to each other first" but it's what happens when you are confronted with those situations for real. How long without a blowjob is too long for your H? When you're pregnant and nauseous for 3-4 months such that putting a toothbrush in your mouth makes you gag, will he cheat then? When you're sleep deprived with a newborn and you can barely manage to shower every day, much less do the cleaning and the cooking, will he cheat then?

Note: I just described two scenarios that happened to me in my first marriage. No one cheated, but no one established the base line of "If I don't do X then it is my fault if you cheat."[/quote]

No, he told me when tried to talk to her about why he was unhappy she would argue and break things. She's not the easiest person to talk to.[/quote]

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