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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]If you really want a child then you should be happy to take a chiild with disabilities because they need more love a,scare.  The truth, however, is that very, very few would adopt a child with any kind of disability.  Stop being such hypocrites.[/quote]

I don't think this is true at all. In fact I think adoptive parents, including us, and most of the ones I know in the area, are far more willing to both consider and agree to parent kids who have (or might have) disabilities than most of my friends with bio kids (yes I know women who have terminated pregnancies for suspected issues.) Often in domestic infant adoption, you have no idea if there will be disabilities. If there's no obvious physical deformity, many of those types of problems can't even be tested for until the babies are several months old. Many cases are like ours where you get a call with a tough situation and you have to be ready to make a choice in a few hours. In our case it was a severely premature baby born to a woman who drank and smoked through her pregnancy. We said yes we'd consider parenting the baby. And then the birth mother picked us from profiles shown. We were ones at the baby's bedside in the NICU daily for a month. And we are now getting the baby tested for developmental delays, because 3 months later a few disabilities (I.e, eyesight) are only now starting to become clear.  But there's no doubt we adore our kiddo and knew the potential for problems. This doesn't make us regret our choice one bit, we'd do it again in a heartbeat. And I would say the same is true for every adoptive family I know, many of whom are parenting kids with disabilities, including disabilities obvious from birth. The pool of kids available for domestic infant adoption is so tiny, that I don't know how any adoptive parent these days goes in intending on waiting for the "perfect situation" (no exposure, low chance of disabilities). Those who do, will wait years.  I think most adoptive parents, at least those going through infant domestic adoption, totally know their chances of parenting a kid with disabilities is higher than in the normal population and are far more likely to embrace kids who may need extra help and services.

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