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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Adoption is truly awful. Sometimes love is unfair and people can't have bio kids. The solution is not stealing other people's children under the guise of giving them a better life. I'm sickened by the concept. [/quote]

Huh? Wut?

Adoption is life saving, for both mothers and children. It's a gift to each party, and a tough choice on both ends.

I've been thinking a lot about my life planning and, as an older mom, what should become of my children if something ever happened to me prior to reaching maturity. I am blessed with a life long friend who would do a magnificent job of caring for my children. She'd love them as her own, make different choices, honor me, invest deeply in them. I'm not saying this is the same for women who are placing their children up for adoption, but I do wonder if this peace of mind is something we might share. What a comfort it must be to parents in difficult circumstances to place their child(ren) in loving homes, especially in the case of open adoptions.
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If you didn't adopt, nor ever will or place a child, I'm not getting your point.  It is not lifesaving for all.  Not all are making the choice - but you clearly only look at the good in it.  Open adoption is very different than someone being your child's legal guardian should you pass.  I don't know why you'd even comment that.  And, open adoption is dependent on the adoptive parents honoring their verbal and written promises and many don't.[/quote] It isn't always the adoptive parents who do not honor the commitment.  I have friends whose birthparents did not.  You are choosing to only look at one side of things. [/quote]

Its the birthparents choice - it may be too hard for them have contact.  They are two very different issues.[/quote] Well, it is pretty damn hard on the child when these "adults" cease contact, but I guess the kids don't matter, only the birth parents...
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It depends on the age and actual child.  My child had lots of visits with his birthfather early on and it stopped - he doesn't remember any of it nor cares.  [/quote] Your child is fortunate that he wasn't old enough to understand that his bio dad deserted him a second time...and your example proves the point that a biological connection does not ensure good parenting.[/quote]

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