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[quote=Anonymous]I'm a divorced, WOHM mom.  Working is not a choice, but I would have chosen it anyway.  When I divorced, my kids were not even in school yet.  I was thanking my lucky stars that I had a professional job where I made decent money.  To reenter the workforce at the worst, most stressful time of my life, would not have been a pleasant endeavor.

The only women I know who got alimony were SAHMs (it probably depends on your age bracket), and they received restorative alimony (for a short period of time).  I was late 30s, so in my circle of friends, I was one of the first divorces, and most of us did not have significant wealth or 10+ year marriages.

I had an acquaintance going through a divorce almost lock-step with me.  She was a SAHM who had to take a clerical job in a law firm for the first couple of years post-divorce.  Because this was a low level job, she didn't make much and she had very little flexibility (time off, running to school for whatever reason, saved up leave).  I thought many times, both of our situations suck...but at least my work life is stable.  I'd also found a position a couple years earlier that has some flexibility.

Also, don't forget that a good lawyer is going to cost a lot of money.  If the plan is to rely on half of your ex's assets, he's most likely not going to hand that over to you without a fight.  We litigated nothing -- everything agreed upon, including custody.  It cost a small fortune and it still bothers me that this is money that could have gone towards my kids.[/quote]

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