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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I just wanted to thank everyone for weighing in with their opinions and ideas. We are slowly transitioning Chanel to Nelly. We will leave Chanel as her first name. We spoke with a child psychologist about Champagne. She actually asked if we minded if she spoke with some of her colleagues about it to brainstorm. She told us that as a parent her personal gut instinct was to protect her child at all costs, so change the name. But as a doctor who saw a little girl attached to her name it would cause a lot of problems. That's what made her conflicted. What she came back with was that we need to "own" the name, and let changing it be Champagne's request/decision. She also cautioned that when people question her name in front of her, we can not say "She's adopted and her birth mother chose her name" or anything like that, because Champagne will see that as us blaming her mother for her getting negative attention. So Dh and I have to really own the name too. So. We have a daughter. And her name is Champagne.  :? [/quote]

There are worse fates. You'll compensate for the name with other opportunities she wouldn't have had without a forever family.[/quote]

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