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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]As someone who's a couple weeks off the birth of my second I just can't see divorcing the connection you have with a baby you carry, not unless you're a knowing surrogate going in and are putting that mental distance in already.

I talk to him, notice his patterns, notice his hiccups, etc.  We see him in the ultrasounds and my husband watches him kick.   To me that's a connection that's separate from DNA. I'm in the thick of it right now but I had the same with my first kid too.

So if this couple had no reason to suspect this baby wasn't their genetic kid, mom would have gone through the same bonding and feelings.

I just can't dismiss that easily.[/quote]

Nobody is suggesting that the woman who carried the baby for 9 months didn’t feel a bond.

Rather, some of us are baffled as to why this woman’s feelings trump doing what’s best for the baby longterm.

If someone could magically swap out this baby with one genetically connected to the white parents, I bet they would agree to the swap. [/quote]

Given they seem to have located the bioparents it doesn't seem they're asking for her?  Why would forcing a kid on them be a better outcome?[/quote]

The biological parents appear to be settling for some sort of visitation with the child because the birth parents are unwilling to surrender custody. Even if the bio parents were to prevail in court, it would probably take years and at that point they would be taking the child from the only parents they knew.

From what little we know, it appears that the biological parents are being realistic and selfless --putting the child first.

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Where are ypu getting any of this?  That's not in any of the articles.

Remember the couple here specifically sought them out.  Had they done nothing the bioparents potentially wouldn't have been located.[/quote]

The birth parents could not have sued the IVF clinic without revealing what occurred.

When the birth parents sued, they also issued a statement making clear they would always be the parents. In other words, they never intended to surrender custody even before the bio parents were located.

After the bio parents were identified a few months ago, lawyers were involved.

The outcome was the current settlement. I think the biological parents knew that they would likely lose in court, with the birth parent's case growing stronger with the passage of time, and settled for the best relationship with the child they could achieve. [/quote]

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