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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]If you invite someone somewhere you are responsible for paying.  Its tacky to do otherwise.

I would frame it as teaching responsibility.  Send a group chat to the parents and say you want to relax this year and give the boys more responsibility.  Say you have tasked your son with coming up with a grocery list with his friends and dividing the cost of food and cooking/cleaning responsibilities.[/quote]

Ok choosy beggar. Have some self respect instead of fishing desperately for a handout.

Sorry but it’s not who invites pays. People invite coworkers to join for lunch, friends invite each other to drinks, movies, outings without the ridiculous expectation that whoever invites is responsible for paying for everything. Wondering what your social life looks like with this silly attitude. I bet you don’t get invited twice and people avoid you like plague, because your reputation as a choosy beggar is solidified.

It’s fine to be generous and pay for everything, it’s fine to tell your guests what the expectations are. It doesn’t mean it’s tacky.

Nobody needs to “frame” anything or present it in a more palatable way when OP is generously offering her house to the group. Geez, some people have no shame.[/quote]

Going out to lunch is OUT and the consensus on this thread is that kids should have to pay for meals out. Would you have someone over at your house and ask them to pay you? I agree that you can set expectations about something being potluck or what people can contribute, but you do not ask them to pay when you have them over, even on vacation. [/quote]

By your argument asking kids to bring money for eating out is ok. Asking them to bring food like for a potluck is also ok. Buying the groceries in the hometown and loading them in the car for the destination is also ok. But you draw a line at buying the groceries from the store nearby the beach house. You’re not making any sense.

Nobody is asking for money, OP is just saying they need to figure out food on their own which can be a combination eating out and cooking for themselves. Saying this is tacky is just part of silly cultural norms, mostly immigrant, that put an oversized emphasis on saving face and making “good impressions”. Frankly that’s quite insulting to the OP and show a lack of respect for her effort, which is  very substantial.

Parents biatching about what others do, without lifting a finger is off putting. In OPs situation, just disinvite the disrespectful family and keep the people that appreciate her effort.[/quote]

Curious how you define hosting? It’s not immigrant cultural norms—it’s pretty standard—not sure why you homed in on that??? Odd. [/quote]

Because OP is a chaperone, not a host. [/quote]

They are the host.  They are inviting the kids to their home, having them stay at their home and organizing it all/supervising. [/quote]

Feel free to voice your objection by not having your child attend such “tacky” beach trip. It’s better for everyone involved and you’ll get the much needed mental relief.[/quote]

My kids would not be going due to the lack of supervision. They are strong pool swimmers but not strong ocean swimmers.  [/quote]

Well, I guess that would be too bad. But your current 4 yr old is going to change a lot in the next 13 years.[/quote]

My kid is an older teen and certified lifeguard but pool and ocean are very different[/quote]

It's ok to sit things out if they don't work for you. Nobody is begging your kid to go to this event they were never invited to.[/quote]
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