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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Again, My husband wasn’t at a teen club; it was a 25+ venue, and he didn’t know my age. I never liked older men for financial reasons, I just liked three because they were older—that’s all. Also, I wasn’t a teenager when I was 18. While many 18 year olds who get pregnant by 40 year olds might be considered victims, that wasn’t the case for me. OP[/quote]

You sound like a petulant and defensive teenager writing this now. I’m sorry your husband won’t pay for your vacation[/quote]

How? My husband truly didn’t know my age, [b]he thought I was 24[/b]. I just wasn’t a teenager anyway when I was 18, I think I stopped being a teenager at 15. And I wasn’t a pregnant teen either. OP[/quote]

Do you really think that there is no difference physically, behaviorally and emotionally between an 18 year old and a 25 year old?  Even if he was 40 and you were 25, that is a huge age gap that usually indicates that there is a power differential in a relationship.  I know you think that you were mature for your age, but your desire to normalize what you and he did is clouding your judgement.  I'm not saying he is a criminal pedophile, but he is definitely a guy who enjoys and takes advantage of the power differential in your relationship, as you can see by his response to your valid concerns about having a vacation with his child with you.

Please get some individual therapy and explore why you like older men -- it's not just "because they're older".  There are some specific things in your family of origin and they way you grew up that made you seek out this unhealthy dynamic. [/quote]

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