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[quote=Anonymous]OP, you are in the 15th percentile of men's height.  You look like Curtis Mayfield, a balding guy with glasses.  Those are major dating handicaps.  You friends say "niche" because they don't have the heart to say "short and ugly".  I'm brutally honest, but I got your back, bro.

Fortunately, many women don't care about looks if the man exhibits status and money.  You are a financially stable law partner.  But you are muscular with tattoos.  That is tricky, because tattoos attract artistic, expressive women or women who like physical meatheads.  There are many single professional black women in D.C., but you don't look like a law partner.

You could experiment with athletic/alternative leisure wardrobes.  But in most contexts, you would do better with preppy Brooks Brothers and Ralph Lauren Polo outfits.  You need outfits that convey your professional status.

Get shoes that add height (boots with heels, lug soles, padded running shoes or Nike Air Force One's).  Going from 5'6" to 5'9" takes you from the 15th percentile to the 50th percentile, effectively tripling your dating market.  If you date interracially, then you might succeed with shorter Asians and Latinas.

Professional women in Baltimore are more appreciative of educated professional men.  While there are a lot of professional black women in D.C., there are also a lot of professional black men.

Finally, are you "weird" or socially uncalibrated?  It is conceivable to accidentally go on two dates with different transwomen.  I was just an annoying waste of time, so why are even mentionit here?  You should not bring up silly, creepy, incriminating stuff on dates.  Also, you must ruthlessly reject bad matches and time wasters.  Online dates get a couple rounds of cocktails and a goodnight kiss.  Second and third dates might get a little food because they last longer.  Then it is time to visit your condo for a nightcap or Netlflix and chill.  Any flaking, rudeness or lack of progress demotes the woman to back-up status.

I prefer online dating where the women see your photo.  I think dating services are overpriced marketing scams.  But "It's Just Lunch" could be timesaver if you are willing to spend a few hundred dollars to meet some women.  More generally, you need to experiment, get good professional photos and good profiles on dating sites, try a bunch of different dating sites, try Speed Dating, try everything.  Treat this like a part-time job.  Get 1-4 new online dates per month, plus Speed Dating, or It's Just Lunch, and singles events.  You will improve your dating skills with practice and stop chasing disinterested women and bad matches.[/quote]

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