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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I have lots of friends with 1 or 2 kids and think everyone has their own reasons, but this thread is eye opening at how anti-natal and narcissistic parents of one child are. Not sure why most of y’all even had one kid if you think so little about them, and so much about yourselves. [/quote]

I thought the problem with parents of one kid is that they give them too much attention and spoil them? Y'all need to get your stories straight.[/quote]

You can never give a child too much attention.  [/quote]

I don't know, I think I have to disagree.  This is anecdotal but I know an only child who given alllll the attention and now (we're in our mid forties) she is one of the most selfish, self-centered people I know.  Her mom moved her entire life to be near her - now lives 2 blocks away - and waits on the daughter hand and foot.  The daughter married a guy who does whatever she says and even her kids know she's #1.  It's very hard for her to make friends, but I don't think she cares - she genuinely feels that she's better than everyone else because she was always the center of attention.

So yeah, I think you can give a child too much attention...[/quote]

DP but attention is the wrong metric. I would rephrase it to: you cannot give a child too much nurturing. I would actually argue the person you are talking about was neglected, because her parents failed to nurture a sense of empathy or self-awareness about her place in the world. They may have given her a lot of attention but it doesn't sound like that attention took the form of recognizing that she was developing selfish and self-centered habits and taking steps to address it since that's no way to live. They actually failed to give her the kind of nurturing attention she needed.

But there is really no limit on the amount of nurturing you can give a kid, assuming you are giving them good, solid parenting that actually meets all their needs (and not just doting on them and buying them things and failing to really parent them at all).[/quote]

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