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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]DP here to add some context.

Michigan had over 1500 girls sign up for rush this year.  Of course it was a record year b/c those crazy 2007 babies are all still competing against each other.  There were 15 houses participating in formal rush and you can assume a pledge class is around 70 people.  That means 1/3 of the girls would not end up with bids.  Some would drop on their own and maybe some would just get shut out.  There is actually another sorority returning to campus and their rush starts a few weeks later, so there are more spots, but I can see how a lot of girls would be hesitant to join a complete unknown.

The girls met all 16 houses (the new one, too) over a zoom that lasted about 10-15 minutes.  Then, they split the houses into 11 yays and 4 less interested and ranked the 4. A LOT of girls got all the 4 ranked ones back. The system gives more invites to the less "popular" houses to increase interactions and encourage a better yield.  You can image with 1500 girls, that means a lof of cuts. The time of the zoom wasn't enough to actually get to know the houses or for the houses to make an honest judgement call on the PNMs.  Girls are "unofficially" advised to open their social media before rush starts, so you can see how influence and SM curation had a great impact.

OP - There are reasons girls want the "top" houses at UMich, but your daughter should ask if that's really her vibe.  Some houses are better than others at creating an online image, but that doesn't mean they are a better house.  My DD found some were surprising in both good and bad ways.  So, so many girls were upset when the lists came out Friday.  Your DD isn't going to be alone if she drops rush.  I think a lot more will happen before pref.  Also, I've heard so many times that girls don't drop their pre-greek friends at UM, so that shouldn't be a problem.

It's tough to watch, but I hope your daughter comes to a decision that makes her happy.  Seriously, most people at UM aren't greek and there are a million clubs and little communities where she can find friendships.[/quote]

I say this kindly, mom, but you need to land the helicopter and get your own life. No parent should know this much about the greek system at their child's school. This makes you sound utterly insane.[/quote]

This is not kind at all and knowing this info is not abnormal. These girls are 18 years old, this process is awful, and it’s nice that they have moms who care enough to learn the details of the things that matter to them. It’s called a relationship. I wasn’t in a sorority but my daughter is and I love her, so I learned. Bug off. [/quote]

It’s called enmeshment.[/quote]

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