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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]No, she's not on the spectrum. A psychotherapist friend calls her a late bloomer, which may be the case. She's a kid who reads a four-hundred page book in an hour, yet she forgets to study for an English test. I don't know what you call that. Immaturity? [/quote]

I call that very, very obvious ADHD. Classic symptoms, in fact. 
The hyperfocus part of ADHD means she gets lost in her book.
The inattentive part of ADHD means she forgets due dates and assignments. 
It's sad you didn't catch on sooner, because she could have had a much better experience at school, and been much happier. Children with ADHD who are left to struggle on their own often because angry and frustrated, and are more likely to turn to self-medication with drugs or other undesirable activities.

You want to get her evaluated by a psychologist as soon as possible. Don't ask your pediatrician, they are not trained in that specialty.

(BTW, twice exceptional means gifted with disabilities, not necessarily Aspie. It can be dyslexia, ADHD, anxiety, whatever.)[/quote]

She's been unhappy due to the isolation caused by the pandemic, so I had her evaluated. The psychotherapist said she's gifted and hypersensitive to stress, but no ADHD. She's fairly well organized. Forgetting to study for a test has only happened once or twice. She reads prodigiously. [/quote]

My apologies, then, I misunderstood.

I think she'll be happier in grad school (or law school or med school), once she focuses on the topics she REALLY wants to study. Tell her she has to power through until then, otherwise she won't reach that goal. What does she like to do?

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She won’t be happy in any profession if she doesn’t learn that sometimes you just have to do work you don’t like no matter how gifted you are. Gifted doesn’t mean much without drive and ability to put in the work.

She should work on learning to get something out of even mundane tasks. Because that’s life. Even at Yale.

- a double Yale grad [/quote]

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