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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote]DP As he should be.

Did the process involve action, meaning a legal proceeding and follow through? Or did you anonymously vent until, magically, you were divorced and able to pursue happiness with a considerate and respectful partner?

You took action. Good on you.
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[quote]DP it's hilarious how you have spent so much time insisting it is horrible to vent about your husband and it all rests on the absurd notion that people who vent are not taking action to solve their problems.[/quote]

DP - You are responding to one post. However, the idea that it is awful to complain about your husband in derogatory terms has been advanced by several other posters, including me.

You seem to excuse using derogatory language (e.g., "lazy", "careless") about your husband by calling it "venting". What does this mean, exactly? Are you a steam engine, such that venting is a regular part of your day-to-day operations? Venting implies that a system has built up enough pressure that, unless the pressure is released, the system will be damaged.

Most likely, you do not have control of your emotions and need to lash out when you are upset. Calling it venting makes it easier to justify, since the implication is that your DH caused all of the problems you need to "vent" about and you can blame him (or others) for your lack of emotional control.[/quote]

What OP's DH did was lazy and careless. Those are accurate words to describe his actions.

There are mountains of research showing that women spend more time on childcare and housework than fathers and less time in leisure activities. I get that you just want to blame the women for this for not communicating effectively or whatever, but the rest of us respect ourselves enough to know we are not here to parent our husbands. It takes a lot of time to "communicate" to people that the way they were raised is not going to work in a modern household. In the meantime, you bet I am going to find humor and solidarity with other women who experience similar ridiculous behaviors from our husbands. Sorry (not sorry) you don't like that.[/quote]

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