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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]You can’t have a societal norm and expectation that men have to make the first move, show interest first and make the connection and then also get mad when they do. If men only showed interest in women who have already explicitly invited that interest there would be a lot of single women in the world. Outside of online dating, it is almost always men asking for numbers and making a move. [/quote]

But the waitress is not someone who is searching for a romantic partner—she's someone trying to find out if you want pancakes. It's not appropriate to ask your boss for a date, the police officer who just pulled you over or the garbage man while he hoists your bin. Let waitresses find out if you want pancakes without hassling them. If you see someone, in an appropriate environment, like a party, bar or other social event, then you can ask them—whether it's your teacher, the cop who pulled you over, the garbageman or your waitress from the pancake house.[/quote]

How does one know that a woman is searching for a romantic partner? That would be great if there was a clear indicator that says, hit on me.

I don’t think it’s appropriate necessarily but I am sure there are plenty of meet cute stories of customers and waitresses and happily ever after. One of my cousins married a flight attendant he hit on during a flight (working and no indicator of interest), my friend married a guy who  was the tow truck driver who came after she crashed her car. Again he was at work. I  also know other couples who met when one was at work or where there were no clear neon lights of single and looking to mingle.[/quote]

Here's a hint: if your target is captive to you because of their work, it's a bad idea.

The waitress was assigned to your table. She's not trying to eff everyone who is seated in her section. If she is, she can let you know. Don't make her job harder.

If your friend was happy hitting on the tow truck driver, that was her choice—if he had pursued her, it would've been a different story. [/quote]

What do you mean it’s her choice?  The tow truck driver was just assigned to her, doing his job and she started harassing him!  Disgusting behavior.  [/quote]

I’m going to guess that they had a conversation while he was towing her car, and they made a connection.  [/quote]

Nope! He gave her his card to find out where her car was towed to. She was picked up from the accident scene by family. She called him the next day about her car, she thanked him for trying to calm her down, told him she was glad it was a cute guy who came to her rescue, and she asked him if he wanted to meet up. [/quote]

Lesson:  it’s endearing when women hit on men (even at work) and it’s TOXIC HARASSMENT men when hit on women.  [/quote]
Hopefully men start paying attention. Women don’t want to be hit on the same way men want to be hit on.[/quote]

If men that hit on women end up hooking up with more women than men that do not, nothing will change.  The only way for it to change is for women to specifically hook up with the respectful types more than the players.  I’m married and have no dog in this hunt anymore, I’m just observing.[/quote]

We’re not talking about women.  This is a child.  
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We’re talking about a 17 year old that 20 year old are flirting with.  20 year olds that have no idea what her age is because she’s doing a job that involves serving alcohol and so is typically limited to 18 or even 21 plus.  [/quote]

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