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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]For moms who left the workforce by choice to be a full-time stay at home parent, what gave you the confidence to do it? I work FT with preschool age kids but am too scared to take the plunge and exit the workforce because I know reentry (especially at my current salary) is far from guaranteed.[/quote]

What do you value the most?

Your children
Your job title
Money[/quote]

I value being able to give my children opportunities to have a great education and access to pretty standard extracurriculars. I also value giving my special needs child the therapies he needs. Just that lifestyle in a HCOL area is a fortune and in my household, requires two incomes. A lot of people would like to be home with their kids or work a very flexible jobs but economically can not afford to. [/quote]

To answer OP’s question, I had a high earning spouse. If he made[b] less than 500k, [/b]I would never consider not working.[/quote]

Based on this number, your answer to the PP’s question is:

Money
[/quote]

Isn’t that true though? If the husband earns 100 or 75 and you can’t afford to save up for retirement or pay for your kids’s sports or college, the kid likely is better off with a working mom.[/quote]

There are many numbers between “100 or 75” thousand and 500 thousand, which is the actual number the woman said.

Anyone in DC can give their kids a great life AND save for retirement on 400k, just for example.[/quote]

I am that pp. DH earns a seven figure income. We know many people who cannot afford college whether they are dual or single earning households. I would work if we could not afford to pay for kids’ college or not have enough for retirement.

I have a few friends who stayed home when kids were younger and now they are older but don’t go back to work. They will talk about lack of savings or how college is expensive and they have nothing saved, but don’t consider going back to work. This seems financially irresponsible. Some of these marriages also don’t seem that solid and SAHM would be totally screwed if then were ever to divorce because there won’t even be much money to split.[/quote]

What the heck are you you babbling about?  [b]You quoted a number.  [/b]The number was half a million a year.  The vast majority of American families can save for college, save for retirement, pay for kids activities, etc. on SIGNIFICANTLY less than half a million dollars per year.

So if that is indeed your number (which is in fact what you said), then you 100% prioritize MONEY despite your feeble coping and justifications.  And you don’t actually have to justify your priorities, just own it instead if pretending you NEED half a mil every year to raise your kids.  That’s just pathetic.[/quote]

I prioritized my kids. That is why I stayed home.

If my husband didn’t earn enough, I would have gone back to work. 500k would actually not be enough for our family. I wrote that number as a low number. Everyone’s number is different.[/quote]

Yes, you “prioritized” your kids AFTER hitting your FIRST and MOST IMPORTANT priority which was an obscenely high HHI.  The only reason half a mil wouldn’t be “enough” is because you PRIORITIZE a [b]wealthy lifestyle.  [/b]

Which actually makes your kids #2 on the list.[/quote]

I was already earning a high income before I was married and before I had children. I was already successful in my career when I decided to stay home with my kids.[/quote]

So what?  That has absolutely nothing to do with your assertion that if your [b]husband [/b]earned a penny less than [b]five hundred thousand dollars [/b]per year you’d leave the kids with the nanny.

You’re correct that everyone’s number is different, and the people who prioritize money (eg YOU) tend to have higher number.  It’s extremely telling how defensive you are about it.  You clearly want to have your cake and eat it too.[/quote]

I’m not defensive at all. I’m considering going back to work now. I would want a flexible and/or part time job. At this point, it would be a hobby job and I’m not sure if  it would be worth it. DH earns $2m+ per year. This year he may earn 5.[/quote]

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