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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Suppose Spouse A is big on punctuality because they come from a military background and also feel that being on time means respecting other people's time. Spouse A also thinks that punctuality is a good habit to pass on to children. Spouse B is less punctual and feels that being 15-30 minutes late is not that big of a deal. Part of this is attributable to cultural/family background and part of it is a tendency to get distracted.

They have discussed the issue repeatedly and Spouse A frequently threatens to just leave Spouse B and go to events, but has never followed through with it until this weekend. They were supposed to meet another couple for dinner and were already running late. The other couple consists of Spouse A's work colleague and their spouse. They are work friends, but not best friends, and the couples have hung out socially together a few times. Spouse A told Spouse B that if they were not ready in 5 minutes, they could take an Uber to the restaurant. Spouse A actually followed through and left to the restaurant in frustration while Spouse B was still dithering.

Spouse B is furious with Spouse A and feels they were trying to embarrass them. Was Spouse A a too drastic?[/quote]

I would be LIVID if you were 30 minutes late to a dinner with me and my husband without a seriously good excuse. Spouse B is a jerk.[/quote]

Really?  I would be irritated if I was cooking and I prepared things to be ready at a specific time, but it sounds like they were all meeting up at a restaurant.  I would just have a drink with my husband.

It would be so much weirder to be brought into the middle of someone’s marital drama.  [/quote]

Ok, you do you. I think it's incredibly rude to show up 30 minutes late to a dinner reservation. [/quote]

I will!  I like hanging out with people who married someone they like to be with, and who don’t need me around to be a buffer with their spouse.

I can see how if you feel that you can’t spend 15 minutes alone with your spouse, it probably doesn’t really phase you if the other couple is in a fight or not speaking to each other.

For me, the late thing wouldn’t bother me, but I would find a fight incredibly awkward.  
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Who is fighting? OP never said there was a fight in front of their friends, you're just making stuff up.

I would never fight with my husband in front of people and we love spending time together just the two of us, but I also wouldn't have married him if he were an inconsiderate jerk who didn't think being on time was important, so we don't have that problem. [/quote]

Well, he threatened to leave, then walked out in anger.  Sounds like a fight to me.   
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That is 100 percent not a fight.[/quote]

Okay.  I feel uncomfortable out to dinner with a couple where one person is angry with the other.  They don’t need to be shouting.  [/quote]

What does this have to do with OP’s post?[/quote]

What do you mean?  This is what the post is about.  [/quote]

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