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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]This is the OP. Last weekend, the other mother (the one who hosted the playdate where my child was not included) extended a playdate invitation to my DD and another girl -- not my DD's best friend. I thought it would be healthy and good for my child to go and make new friends, and we appreciated the invite after the other exclusion or so I perceived, I understand not everyone thinks it was exclusion. Everyone had fun or so I thought, and I thanked the mom and made plans to have her daughter over next week.
Yesterday, my DD came home upset after overhearing several girls talk about this girl's upcoming birthday party at recess. My DD was not invited. I am unclear why my child would have a playdate at her house and not be invited to her party, and now she is hearing about it on the playground from other girls, a spa morning and lunch. 
She has a playdate scheduled with the girl but now feels that it is hollow since she's not going to her party and they clearly are not going to be friends.
I am wondering if I should just cancel the upcoming playdate and write this girl off as not a real friend and encourage my child to look elsewhere. It is causing her a lot of sadness and she is wondering why she is not good enough to be invited. 
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Oh my god, you sound exhausting. It sounds like your daughter and this girl on not actually good friends, they are new friends. The party was probably planned weeks in advance before the other mom [b]planned the pity play date[/b]. Let. It. Go.[/quote]

While this wording above is a bit harsh I do feel like the other mom is making good on what she texted you, OP. It is what I would do in the same situation. The other mom said that she will look to another time to have OP's DD over to play and she did actually follow up to do so. Kudos to that other mom for she kept her word.

OP, do not go nuclear again here. It will not end well and it will hurt your DD socially.[/quote]

YES 100% agree with this. That mom has manners. She shouldn't have to change plans just to invite another girl to a party (sometimes there are size limits for parties), but it was kind of her to invite your child over.[/quote]

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