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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]A wedding is and should be whatever the two people getting married want it to be. That said, they must be gracious if people decline to attend for any reason, including child care.

But no, "two families" are not getting married; two individuals are. So it's whatever they want. If you don't like it, decline. No one owes you a family reunion. If you want a family reunion, plan, pay for and host one. The end.[/quote]

This. The anger is on both sides. [b]If someone declines because travel with kids and then unknown babysitter in a new place is undesirable, the the bride/groomzillas need to accept that. [/b]

Frankly if I were having a distance wedding with travelers with young kids I’d 1) have a reception open to kids (maybe not ceremony); and 2) I’d either provide babysitting or make a list for guests. [/quote]

bride/groomzillas? 
As has been pointed out, THEY DON'T CARE IF YOU DECLINE. Why do you think you're so special? Just send a gift and decline. Done. [/quote]

There have been examples in this very thread of bride/groomzillas getting very angry and having tantrums because people politely declined. [/quote]

There are far more of people getting mad their own kids aren't invited. Curiously all those examples are second hand so may be very exaggerated. Not a single poster has said they were mad someone didn't attend. [/quote]

Nobody believes they are a groom/bridezilla so they aren’t going to post about the tantrum they threw because people declined their wedding invitation. That doesn’t mean it didn’t happen, and there have been multiple posters who have talked about very angry brides/grooms who threw tantrums and worse when the poster declined.

If you believe no bride is a bridezilla, you may need to look at your own behavior. [/quote]

My own behavior? Or maybe I and everyone I know is normal. People who know bridezillas probably have a lot of drama in their lives. Look at your own behavior, friend.[/quote]

What behavior? [b]Politely declining an invite, and sending a gift? That’s what I did, and the bride freaked out. [/b]

It is weird how you want to put forth this myth that all brides are fully rational and polite people when the term “bridezilla” exists for a reason. Your refusal to believe that some brides have appalling manners is weird. [/quote]

So tell more about your one personal experience with this. You haven't shared yet; you're just saying it happens all the time. What happened to YOU?
How long have you known the bride and in what context?
Were you supposed to be a special role in the wedding?
What were your own personal reasons for declining?
What did you convey to the bride when you decline? Simply RSVP Regrets or something else?
Are you young? When did this happen? Was social media involved?[/quote]

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