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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Somewhere along the generations, parents started lugging their kids everywhere. In the 20th century parents left kids with family and went to places like Hawaii on their own, lol. [/quote]

I am a millennial, and maybe it's because we were just regular ole middle class, but I don't know anyone whose parents did this growing up. Now I see my peers doing this all the time! My parents used babysitters for date nights and adult-only events pretty regularly, but trips? Not a chance. [/quote]

It's because people are getting married much later in life.  My parents are baby boomers and when they got married in their 20s so did their friends. Nobody had kids yet so this wasn't a huge issue of not inviting every kid they knew. Their siblings were close in age and didn't have many kids yet either. Plus the weddings were local. Times have changed. But it's unrealistic that every wedding can include entire families.[/quote]

My husband has a really large family and from a culture where people expect you to invite friends of your cousins and your 2nd cousin twice removed.  Even if you stick to First cousins (and their kids) you would have 200+ "family" at the wedding just from that side, add in my side and the B/G friends and our friends (who our kids have known for 20+ years and would want at their weddings) and it could easily be 350+ to invite.  
Issue is, our kids dont' actually know most of those 200+ on the one side---so most likely they won't invite everyone, and there will be some hurt "family".  We don't care---their wedding should be about them and their partner, and IMO they should know 99% of the people attending (and not just, "oh I recall I met you when I was 8 yo").  But we will let them invite who they want (we will pay as well) and let them have the type of wedding they want.  Most likely, it won't include all of the young kids, as they have seen how poorly behaved many are and parents (family) don't believe in doing anything about it.

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