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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]A wedding is and should be whatever the two people getting married want it to be. That said, they must be gracious if people decline to attend for any reason, including child care.

But no, "two families" are not getting married; two individuals are. So it's whatever they want. If you don't like it, decline. No one owes you a family reunion. If you want a family reunion, plan, pay for and host one. The end.[/quote]

This. The anger is on both sides. [b]If someone declines because travel with kids and then unknown babysitter in a new place is undesirable, the the bride/groomzillas need to accept that. [/b]

Frankly if I were having a distance wedding with travelers with young kids I’d 1) have a reception open to kids (maybe not ceremony); and 2) I’d either provide babysitting or make a list for guests. [/quote]

bride/groomzillas? 
As has been pointed out, THEY DON'T CARE IF YOU DECLINE. Why do you think you're so special? Just send a gift and decline. Done. [/quote]

Exactly!

And if they truly care, they would call you and discuss "hey I know it's 18+ and you have two cute toddlers.  We'd love for both of you to attend and I've gotten a list of amazing sitters from my friend/sfamily/coworkers and would love to help arrange sitters for you if you are able to come".

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I would leave my kid with a stranger and spend a fortune on travel and a sitter. [/quote]

Then you politely decline.  Or you leave your kid at home with your spouse, and only one of you attends (the one who is closest).  A wedding invite is not a summons.  You get to decide Yay or Nay and politely inform by the RSVP date.

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