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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Why is it harder at Indiana? I heard similar. [/quote] Too few spots for number of girls rushing.[/quote] Correction: Too few spots in the specific house that silly 18-year-olds determine are the “cool” houses. The literally set quota on the last night based on the number of girls still enrolled in recruitment divided by the number of chapters. But if every girl goes into recruitment thinking they’ll die if they aren’t a Kappa, then yes, some will be disappointed and will drop out. It’s like claiming you didn’t go to college because there aren’t enough spots in the college freshmen classes. Ummmmm no. You didn’t go to Harvard or Stanford or Yale maybe….and possibly the state flagship didn’t have a spot for you either so you decided not to go to college. But you could have gone to a regional university or community college. You just didn’t want to. The fact is that there are not too few spots for number of girls rushing. There are just too few spots for everyone rushing to be able to join the one or two houses they all wanted. [/quote] This is absolutely the truth and people don’t seem to understand. At most schools, they literally guarantee a kid a bid and if more girls stay through all phases each house will have a higher quota and be able to offer more bids. But instead, they drop whenever they are dropped by the house they thought they deserved and cry to their mom about how it’s so unfair. Literally if girls would just stay in and maximize their options, they’d find a place and no it may not be in the “least desirable” house. My dd had a rough rush and it was over zoom which really sucked. She didn’t realize that she needed to wow them, she thought she was learning about the chaprters. She got dropped by almost all the chapters she wanted after the round robins. Turns out that the one she really liked from day one kept her and that’s where she is now, and loves. It is not a “top” house and it’s not one she’d ever heard of before either. She decided to play it out and see what happens and it worked out. Yeah it wasn’t fun getting cut but guess what, you don’t get everything you want in life but if you learn from the experience and keep at it, it will work out well.[/quote] Correction: at most schools they guarantee you will at least be used to fill the house that they are desperately trying to save. You will just have to pay the fee and go through the emotional hellscape of rush and making fake “preference lists” before it happens. The schools need to fill all the houses for their own reasons. [/quote] True or false: plenty of girls who are kind, smart, pretty, and fun get cut from the top and even middle-tier sororities during rush. Of course this is true. So what happens if a critical mass of these kind, smart, pretty, fun girls join the struggling house? Maybe now it's a more desirable landing place for others?[/quote] I also have wondered about this! However, as someone who got a bid to a struggling house (years ago), I didn’t want to be part of a house that was widely regarded as ‘the fat house’ ‘the ugly house’ etc. People would write these things on public platforms, say ‘MOOOO’, etc. and I figured it was better to stay independent. Let me be clear, it was wrong of both me and the others to have those attitudes. But I was 18, insecure about being dropped everywhere to begin with, didn’t know anyone, and didn’t want to spend thousands of dollars to be called fat and ugly. [/quote] This is so honest and accurate. Thank you. All these adults expecting 17 and 18 year olds to be happy with this scenario are ridiculously dishonest and callous.[/quote]
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