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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Why is it harder at Indiana? I heard similar. [/quote]

Too few spots for number of girls rushing.[/quote]

Correction:
Too few spots in the specific house that silly 18-year-olds determine are the “cool” houses.
The literally set quota on the last night based on the number of girls still enrolled in recruitment divided by the number of chapters. But if every girl goes into recruitment thinking they’ll die if they aren’t a Kappa, then yes, some will be disappointed and will drop out.

It’s like claiming you didn’t go to college because there aren’t enough spots in the college freshmen classes. Ummmmm no. You didn’t go to Harvard or Stanford or Yale maybe….and possibly the state flagship didn’t have a spot for you either so you decided not to go to college. But you could have gone to a regional university or community college. You just didn’t want to.

The fact is that there are not too few spots for number of girls rushing. There are just too few spots for everyone rushing to be able to join the one or two houses they all wanted.

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This is absolutely the truth and people don’t seem to understand. At most schools, they literally guarantee a kid a bid and if more girls stay through all phases each house will have a higher quota and be able to offer more bids.  But instead, they drop whenever they are dropped by the house they thought they deserved and cry to their mom about how it’s so unfair. Literally if girls would just stay in and maximize their options, they’d find a place and no it may not be in the “least desirable” house. My dd had a rough rush and it was over zoom which really sucked. She didn’t realize that she needed to wow them, she thought she was learning about the chaprters. She got dropped by almost all the chapters she wanted after the round robins. Turns out that the one she really liked from day one kept her and that’s where she is now, and loves. It is not a “top” house and it’s not one she’d ever heard of before either. She decided to play it out and see what happens and it worked out. Yeah it wasn’t fun getting cut but guess what, you don’t get everything you want in life but if you learn from the experience  and keep at it, it will work out well.[/quote]

Good for your DD for showing some resilience and keeping an open mind. If more girls did the same instead of dropping out because they didn't get the house that they (and 90% of the other girls) originally wanted, then ALL of the sororites would be healthy and vibrant and that benefits everybody.[/quote]

Please remember that girls drop out of rush for a variety of reasons.

DD recently withdrew because she was in the ER the day rush began, and missed the entire first round. She wrote a letter explaining this, and was cut from the vast majority of the houses between first and second round. She was not well enough to attend the second round events, and decided to go ahead and withdraw. She decided it didn't make sense to continue with a process she was not well enough to fully participate in.

She has been resilient and kept an open mind. She's also been pragmatic, and put her own health needs first.

DD is aiming for a "normal" sorority, and does not have any preconceived notions about a specific sorority she would like to pledge. She is planning to either participate in continuous open bidding or try again next year.    [/quote]

Hi-I am so sorry for your daughter. This is wholly different than dropping out because she was but happy. Please have your daughter contact her rush contact from her group to discuss COB or possibly snap bids. There will be a house and having a pan hellenic contact to shepherd her will be helpful. Good luck to your daughter!![/quote]

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