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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]My wife almost died during childbirth. Things looked bleak. I had about 24 hours to think about what I was going to do. I had pretty much made up my mind I wasn't going keep her, so much of that was debating whether I would simply leave them at the hospital for CPS or turn them over a family member. I wanted to the former to let her start life from a clean slate, preferably never learning about her traumatic birthday, but pretty much concluded I'd have to do the latter.

And while I was convinced, at the time at least, that was the right discusion, I also didn't expect I'd be able to live with myself. So I planned my suicide, too.

Obviously I don't know what I actually would have done if my wife didn't evenctually pull through, but I do know I would never judge whatever decision someone makes in that situation.[/quote]

If I'm understanding correctly you had to make the decision between an unborn child and your wife's life.

This guy had his child for at least a year, by the time the adoption took place longer. Different situation. He didn't want the responsibility of taking care of his own child.[/quote]

No, the child was born healthy, but my wife's condition continued to deteriorate. She wasn't expected to survive.[/quote]

And you were experiencing trauma AND new parenthood without having yet bonded with your newborn child whose birth put your wife’s body in distress.

The OP’s scenario is about a dad of a one year old whose wife died and then he subsequently gave their shared daughter up to the wife’s sister to raise.
He was also likely in shock and grieving and did not feel capable of raising his child alone.
To OP—I don’t think this is a horrible person. I think it’s a person who couldn’t cope and shut down emotionally. 
The “horrible” part is not that he allowed his DD to be raised by her loving (possibly more stable) aunt, but that he wasn’t able to maintain any connection to his daughter so that she could have a loving relationship with her father. But maybe aunt was married and she does have that with both adoptive parents.
a tragic beginning of life but maybe DD is happily ever after with adoptive family.
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