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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I am confused as to why this is more of an issue at private schools. At public schools, dozens of kids apply to the same competitive schools and the chips fall where they may.  There isn’t the same level of ownership over the process. Everyone knows they have zero control and they have a “might as well try” attitude. [/quote]

Another public school parent. I wish there were more of a mix here. So tired of wvery thread being dominated by a private school subset.

My guess is entitlement.  There is a sense among some (not all of course) that the private school investment entitles their kid to a certain tier of college.[/quote]

I don’t perceive entitlement among private school parents as much as I sense greater anxiety. Class anxiety, status anxiety. I have put one through each system, both with a terrific result that was really right for that child. The anxiety levels of the private parents is outsized, even if so many try to conceal it. I think that is why they get so aggressive here about insisting private is superior. It must be such a relief to get it off their chest anonymously.

Child number three is in private now. I have to actively remind myself not to absorb the energy from my peer parents on the topic of college. People whom I like very much in other conversations are just not my cup of tea regarding admissions and planning it out over four years. I work hard at creating an invisible wall. Why? I don’t want to do my child what I see some inadvertently doing to theirs.

Parents. We are a big part of the problem. I know I shouldn’t even be here on this thread. I’m going to have to work a little harder.

As for the public/private debate, focus on your child and what is best for them. No need to be unkind.  [/quote]

No one upthread was unkind. It's fair to sense an entitlement from private parents.  And, your needing to put up an invisible wall with these people is probably the most "unkind" sentiment.  But, frankly, I agree what you sense is something worth walling off from.[/quote]

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