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[quote=Anonymous]The intensity of your response tells me that you were a cheater and are hoping and praying that your betrayed better half does not have an affair or get a few fucX buddies!

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It’s the opposite.  You are not being a victim by having a revenge affair..you are asserting your agency.

You are treating your spouse as they treated you.  At that point if you feel healed you can stay in the relationship for the kids. If not, you leave.

When your spouse cheats but you feel you need to stay in the marriage for what ever the reason, you are a victim.  By having secret revenge sex you are asserting yourself. [/quote]

Listen, Trashy: When your spouse cheats, you have the agency to stay or leave. If you use your spouse's infidelity as justification for your own, you're okay with cheating and you always were.

Ever heard "two wrongs don't make a right"? Doing the hurtful thing back doesn't equal "asserting yourself". It equals degrading yourself. Now you're just as dirty as your cheating spouse. Gross.

Have some self respect and leave, or choose to stay, but only cheaters cheat. There's no "well, they did it first" loophole. You're either a cheater or you think cheating is wrong and you don't cheat.[/quote][/quote]

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