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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]It is highly unlikely they regret having kids.  They are just being nice and showing respect for your choice.  [/quote]

But OP was talking about her vacation plans, not her reproductive choices. So why would they respond to vacation talk with her reproductive status in mind? Doesn't seem respectful.

Sounds ultra-conservative.[/quote]

Probably because the talking about vacation plans came across as bragging.[/quote]

This is mental projection that can be worked through in therapy. OP said a coworker asked what they were doing for vacation. OP responded. This is how human conversation works.

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Agreed but then OP took this one conversation where her coworker said something kind of sad and weird and concluded "it's shocking how any parents tell us (DINKS) we 'did it right'"

To be clear the "shocking" number of parents telling OP they did it right is one. Also OP apparently knows a guy with two kids one of whom has special needs and that guy seems unhappy about parenthood.

There is nothing shocking about any of this. OP knows a couple unhappy parents (and it's not even clear they are unhappy in general as OP sees to think a single offhand comment is reflective of a person's entire outlook on life) and is now all "OMG they hate us 'cause they ain't us!!!!"[/quote]

I agree with you as well. I think taking a few instances of parents who may be genuinely regretful (one of whom is a dad who is likely under-resourced and lacking proper societal support with his SN kid) and starting a "gee, there sure are a lot of parents who regret having kids" thread is not a mark of a good-faith attempt to start a conversation on a taboo but real subject.

And I think the nastiness displayed in this thread in turn, calling the lives of those who don't have kids empty, meaningless, and pointless is just sinking further into a really ugly display of lack of compassion and really basic decency.

Then again, this is DCUM. Middle-aged 4chan. [/quote]

Sorry. When you (or whoever OP is) put in your OP this:

"I don’t know what to say to you when you tell me you regret the biggest decision you made in your life, which is to produce another human."

You set the tone. People were honest and told you what they mean by these types of conversations. You don't get to cry about you "mean" everyone is when you came in kicking the hornet's nest on a parenting board. It was designed to rile up, that is the point.

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I don't think OP wasn't trying to start a good faith discussion, as I said in my previous post.

But I am not a third grader who's going to use "but she started it!" to excuse saying things like people who don't have kids are living pointless lives. It was dumb and uncompassionate of OP to use the dad of a SN kids as a way to make her gloating point. But why would OP overgeneralizing about people with kids cause me to overgeneralize about people without kids? It wouldn't, because my moral compass isn't set that way. It's disgusting.

OP went low, and those responding to this thread went to the depths of hell. [/quote]

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