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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I reject your version of feminism that is defined as the abolishment of gender norms. [/quote]

I don’t have a problem with arbitrary gender norms like skirts or whatever. I have a problem with ones that limit the freedom or dignity of one sex while not doing so for the other.

If men also had to wear engagement rings, I’d have no problem with them. [b]Why should women have to signal they are taken but men don’t? No.[/b][/quote]

This reminds me of name changes. Women who changed their surname will go to great extents to justify their decision but the fact remains that only women are expected to do it. Even when women are no longer considered their husbands property, they're still socially in their shadow.[/quote]

Justify their decision?!  I dont have to justify my decision to anyone.  What a weird way to describe a different opinion.  Keeping your name just means you are your father’s property instead of your dad’s.  In our society, both surnames come from the male line.[/quote]

Isn't it ironic how defensive you sound and how dishonest your argument is? By your logic, it's not your father's name vs. your husbands, it's your father's vs. your father's in law. Why only women are expected to change their names but not their husbands? And some of us have our father's AND mother's name.
The US is extremely liberal when it comes to naming laws. This idea that your only options are choosing your husband's name is just proof how many women make the default choice without putting any thought in it. I'm pretty sure that your husband had too much pride and self-respect to take your father's name.[/quote]

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