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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]This is a not a “me too going too far” — I guarantee you there is still more unpunished sexual assault in HS than false accusations. [/quote]

It’s not a balancing test.  And a criminal going unpunished is far less of a concern than an innocent person being imprisoned.  That’s pretty much the driving theory behind our criminal justice system.[/quote]

So teach your boys to take precautions so they won’t be victimized. Start with “don’t have sex with someone while you are they are drunk” and move on to “don’t pressure anyone into having sex” and then “don’t have sex with anyone who you haven’t known for long”.

I think a poster elsewhere called it “defensive driving” [/quote]

The example I know of where a boy was falsely accused (proven by text later) did not involve pressure or alcohol. The girl said as much in the exculpatory text. They’d known each other for a long time.

I’m sure you think it’s still the boy’s fault somehow and that he deserved to have his life derailed. [/quote]

1. Some girls will text this when they get scared. 
2. Even if she did make it up and it’s a terrible situation for the boy doesn’t negate that 1 in 4 girls are assaulted or raped between ages 18-22. And that is just reported. Do you think 1 in 4 boys are wrongly accused and have their lives “derailed” 
3. Many girls are too ashamed/ embarrassed to report because of parents like the ones in this thread that victim blame for not being defensive enough. So instead their lives get derailed as they start to think wrong of themselves, cut themselves, have immense PTSD, depression, anxiety and even suicidal thoughts.

But yes, let’s keep talking about the rare story of a boy being falsely accused. Just another reason a girl wouldn’t come forward. [/quote]

THIS!!!

No one is saying there aren’t random false accusations or that they aren’t a big deal, but the reason it is so crazy to hear when they come out is because of how rare that situation is compared to like 30% of woman getting SA’d before age 21. Which I guess is so common that it is just glossed over as “don’t girls know how to cover their drinks, geez!” [/quote]

I mean… if over 25% of the female population is actually being sexually assaulted during the brief age range (NB I do not believe this statistic for a second) then YES cover your drinks, dummies!!  It’s not safe out there!

I suspect the main disconnect here is the changing definition of sexual assault.  Nowadays “assault” covers anything from forcible rape to drunken hook-ups the girl regrets the next day.  Or simply this nebulous concept of “pressure”, not of the physical or livelihood variety, but of the girl not wanting to he seen as difficult or a prude and sadly her mother (or father) never taught her to take some GD agency in her life and actually SAY no when she means no, and then maybe leave if the boy keeps trying to “pressure” her after she says no.

So I think that there are probably MANY “false” allegations (from the boy’s perspective) but which the girl fervently believes because this is what girls are being taught these days.  They’re always victims.[/quote]

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