Reply to DD wants to transfer out of top university but DH won't allow it

Forum Index » College and University Discussion

Reply to "DD wants to transfer out of top university but DH won't allow it"

Subject:

Emoticons





More smilies

Text Color: Font: Close Marks

[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I agree, there should be no discussion of leaving before first year. The constant talk of transferring only will make her not commit to making friends or immersing and finding her place. Mental health is important but so is grit.  Many people have trouble adjusting the first year of college and that discomfort is not"mental health" it's a human experience that people become stronger for working through - it's grit, of which todays kids seem to lack.

If she wants to apply to other schools in the spring, so be it, but I too would aim for more laid back Ivys in a different setting. Like Dartmouth or Brown.   NYC has an intensity any way you look at it.

Your DH digging in his heels may be controlling but at the same time, it's controlling for the other side to expect him to take their viewpoint over his own.   I would not let my Ivy kid that I just full paid 80K waste their opportunity to stay in the tier 10 schools and go to a party school. That is an extreme overcorrection.  Nothing wrong with those schools but clearly the DD has capability for a stronger curriculum.

My DC is a triple major one of which is math. He had straight As through Calc 3 and had some trouble in his freshman math because college math at schools with strong math programs are not like HS or DE classes. He struggled to get a B in the exact same class he got perfect scores in taking at a local university.  Anyway, he figured out how math works in these settings and now is back to all As. He just completed his degree requirements for math so now he is done.   Anyway, let her transfer after this year but Id recommend it be  to another high caliber school in a more rural less busy environment.[/quote]

WTF is the point of a triple major?  Don’t tell me your kid is passionate about these subjects…just a bizarre continuation of the rat race.

Folks, college is so much more than just taking classes.[/quote]

Hope most of those classes apply to all or overlap. Narrow that down or get a masters. Nobody cares about your 3 majors, I have 2 and a minor.[/quote]

I would argue nobody cares about your 2 majors and a minor.  Why not just one major, and then spend more time getting involved with university life and networking.[/quote]

Options

	Disable HTML in this message
	Disable BB Code in this message
	Disable smilies in this message

Review message

Search Recent Topics Hottest Topics