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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I tell my husband to do this on his way home. He literally pulls over into a parking lot and watches movies to wind down from his day. He comes home so much calmer.

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What kind of movies would have him coming home "so much calmer?" Serious question. Can't they watch movies at home?
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DP. Do you not understand, PP? Being at home is part of the problem, when one is trying to decompress between work and home. Hard to watch movies as a calming break, if kids are coming in and wanting attention, or spouse is asking questions about household things, etc. That is why "Can't they watch movies at home?" is unhelpful. Home itself is a reason for the need to decompress, sometimes, for some people. And that's OK, if watching movies in the car for a while helps a person walk in the front door at home calmer and more relaxed, and readier to deal with the kids, dinner, questions, etc. [/quote]

Ok let’s call a spade a spade.

Having out yourself for 30-60 minutes when you have household, children, meal, planning responsibilities is exactly what it is: Dodging responsibilities

Now, if you have autism and are constantly overwhelmed and fatigued and giving your 5-6 hours of energy only to work, then get therapy. Then come to agreement that the only way you function is with big breaks throughout the day. Sorry spouse! Sorry kids! [/quote]

You think taking 30 minutes to yourself is dodging responsibilities? You sounds angry and weird, which would be consistent with that. PP said that she suggests her DH take a little break before coming home to decompress. That seems like a nice idea. Is it better to come in refreshed and ready to be present with the kids? Or to stick with the martyrdom and coming in ready to be angry at everyone?

Also, not everyone has some middle manager fed or NGO job where the only stress is boredom. Some people have really hectic or stressful jobs, and taking a little time to decompress makes a lot of sense.[/quote]

Also, OP said he did this twice over the course of more than a month. We all need breaks. Ideally we'd be able to tell our spouses that. But "dodging responsibilities" twice over 45 days or so? Doesn't sound like a huge deal. [/quote]

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