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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]OP has it not occurred to you that the 15-year-old teen is closer in age to a legal adult then your elementary schooler? [/quote]

I don't get this argument, did you only play/hang out with kids your exact age growing up?  Growing up we hung out in our neighborhood with kids in a wide range, so 11 and 15 isn't strange to me [/quote]
I grew up in one of those neighborhoods where the kids all hung out too, but there were not 11 year olds hanging out with 15 year olds. That is a 6th grader hanging out with a HS sophomore, not happening.

It sounds like OP invited the whole family, which she didn’t realize included a 15 year old, so next time she can plan accordingly. The family, as new acquaintances, might have also told the teen the whole family was invited so she needed to come this once. [/quote]

It's also different if the kids have known each other for a long time - cousins, family friends, neighbors etc. Not an 11yo and 15yo meeting for the first time at someone's home dinner.[/quote]

What the girl did was fine, OP. You really only wanted the younger kid and parents who match your kids' age, so invite on a non-custody weekend or don't socialize. To try to pathologize this kid is mean and out of line. [/quote]

OP may have been rigid in her expectations but she’s not wrong to point out this is weird. Normal teenagers do not want to hang out all evening with random middle aged adults, and many posters on this thread sound defensive bc maybe their own kids have developmental issues and would do that. 
She doesn’t have to be with the younger kids either but talking on the phone with her own friends, staying at home, or at least asking her dad if he can take her back home in the middle would have been normal.[/quote]

It is perfectly normal for a 15 year old to look at two options: hang with a bunch of little kids or hang with the adults  and pick hang with the adults. [/quote]

These aren’t the only 2 options. As other posters mentioned, she could have read a book or watched TV. There seem to be many posters who are offended a teen wouldn’t find them cool enough to hang out with.[/quote]

For all we know the girl was taught it is rude to be invited somewhere and sulk alone. The TV for the kids was occupied by kids movies and video games so this would have involved finding a random empty room and helping herself to the TV in a stranger's house.

I would love to hear the girl's side of this. Probably complained to her friend's about her weekend dad using their time together to bring her to this weird lady's house who wanted her to play with little kids and shot her dirty looks all night. [/quote]

There’s too many assumptions here. [b]And a girl with friends to complain to wouldn’t spend  the whole evening talking to her dad’s friends[/b].[/quote]

Also an assumption. [/quote]

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