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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]MIL is stepping in because of OP’s weird, stringent food rules. If you have house guests, feed them. “We eat at 5” and not allowing food and drink otherwise is being a bad host.[/quote]

Are you really unable to read? I have said numerous times that I am hosting houseguests for multiple days. We serve breakfast, lunch, cocktail hour with appetizers and dinner, and the kitchen is open any time someone wants anything. But you tried it! :)[/quote]

Oh yes, I see now that you posted almost this same exact comment earlier! There is no way that someone like you is the easy-going hostess you’re trying to portray yourself as. You’re being too controlling with what and when your houseguests can eat/drink. [b]Your MIL feels the need to step in, apparently with good reason[/b].[/quote]

Nope. It’s not he house, she’s not the hostess and she is RUDE.[/quote]

It's normal for several female family members to pitch in to help on a holiday.  Your "rude" is other people's normal.  If you really want all guests to stay away from handling any food or beverages, then hire a catering team.  That serves food and beverages to guests the entire time.  And dinner at a normal time.  Then it's all solved rather than just blame everybody for starving or being thirsty or for offering those folks items. [/quote]

Help is only help if it is wanted. I have an aunt and uncle who prefer to do everything themselves, so even though most of us help in each other’s home and appreciate help in our homes, we respect our aunt and uncle when they host.

Why are you saying it is normal for “female” family members to pitch in to help on a holiday? Hmm.
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I'm trying to find a solution to your inability to feed people.  You need humans to hand people food.  You are incapable of doing it properly, you are too narcissistic to let a family member help, so hire professionals. [/quote]

When did OP say she doesn’t allow anyone to help? Help is—when a host or hostess is ready to do so—clearing the table or bringing slices of cake to other guests. Help is not telling someone who has made coffee and breakfast that they may have coffee and breakfast, as if that was ever in doubt. Do you also go into people’s closets and tell them they may wear their own shirts?[/quote]

You don't get it.  you missed it[/quote]

They get it perfectly.[/quote]

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