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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]All these 2nd wives have no idea that if they die 1st their money will go to the adult children from his 1st marriage and only a portion will go to their own child.[/quote]

Why would you assume that?[/quote]

so you are cool with your retirement going to his kids if you die early due to cancer. All that money goes to your H, then passes to all his heirs.

That is what you want for your child? To share the money you earned your whole life to go to kids from his 1st marriage?[/quote]

With retirement accounts, you set who they will go to.  So, if your husband decides they go to the first kids, that's his choice.  Ours are set up where they go to the spouse, then our kids if both of us die.  Simple.  If there are minor kids, the money should be used to care for all minor kids first.  [/quote]

If you die your retirement goes to your husband.

So you cut his kids out of the inheritance of his money?[/quote]

This would be justice.

Yes, all my money goes to my husband first.

Why are they entitled to money?  You sound greedy.  If he chooses to leave them money that's his choice.  But, they aren't entitled to anything, nor our our kids however our kids are entitled to be supported till they are adults.  His kids are adults.  They choose the relationships with him and we will base what they get off the relationship after our kids needs have been met.  Shouldn't our kids get the same as his kids got?[/quote]

Well that’s the question. Should the kids get an even split or should he just unilaterally decide after you die.

Should you set up the money to protect your children should you die 1st or do you just trust he won’t give it all to his 1st kids. Or better yet , you die he marries, kicks your kids out at 18 because they are “adults” and spend your money on her rugrats.[/quote][/quote]

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