Reply to In child custody dispute, breastfeeding mom is ordered to use bottle

Forum Index » Relationship Discussion (non-explicit)

Reply to "In child custody dispute, breastfeeding mom is ordered to use bottle"

Subject:

Emoticons





More smilies

Text Color: Font: Close Marks

[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]In an ideal situation, baby would live with and be cared for by both parents and would receive the best nutrition the parents could provide. However, that ship has sailed since the parents split up and now live apart. Now the choice is between baby being exclusively fed breast milk and having little opportunity to bond with dad or baby being fed formula in order to promote bonding with dad. The court should rule based on the best interests of the child, not the parents. Bonding with dad and having a close relationship with him is more important for the baby and life altering than the benefits of breast milk over formula. That part is a no-brainer.

What complicates this particular case is that this baby was born last July, during the height of the national formula shortage, when it was hard to obtain formula. As important as bonding with dad is, food is even more essential to keep baby alive, so I can understand why mom dug her heels in about breastfeeding and didn’t want any separation from the baby to tank her supply. With these particular circumstances, it’s a tougher call.

I think the court did the right thing by granting dad equal custody once the child has reached 6 months of age.

Having said all that, I’m disgusted by the attorney’s referencing woman “weaponizing” breastfeeding. There is so much pressure to breastfeed. Women have been bombarded with the “breast is best” campaign. You can’t blame new moms for wanting to protect their supply, which requires having access to baby. [/quote]

Mom can pump and provide dad with the breast milk.  Baby can have breast milk with dad. [/quote]
It’s not uncommon for women to produce less milk when pumping than they do when breastfeeding the baby. [b]This could actually derail the mom’s milk production, which is a legitimate concern, [/b]but I still think baby bonding with dad outweighs the benefits of breast milk over formula.[/quote]

This winner will be the first one complaining how expensive formula is.[/quote]
I’m sure he expects the mom to just pump and provide the milk to him, like that’s a small ask. I had great difficulty with pumping, even with the aid of a lactation consultant, a hospital grade pump, and being in the privacy of my own home. I couldn’t have provided milk for overnight visits.[/quote]

Obviously this mother has a huge incentive to not be successful with pumping. Why should anyone believe her that she tried and can't do it? If we can question dad's motives then we can question hers as well.[/quote]

Two extremely common things: women struggling to pump and men trying to screw women over on child support. [/quote]

Any savings on child support will be offset by formula costs. Yet, he's still fighting for his visitation. Seems like money isn't his issue.[/quote]

Read the article. He doesn’t think he’s incurring any formula expense he wants to provide pumped milk, which is free, [/quote]

The articles I read said he's open to pumped milk or formula, which ever works best.  [b]Mom its refusing to pump so his only option is formula[/b].  The cost of formula given the amount of custody time he has and given this child should also be on solids is pretty minimal.  And, if they are low income, they can go through WIC.

He isn't trying to screw her over with child support.  All you care about is a money grab, which is sickening.  Both parents have a duty to financially support their children.  But, this is about him having a relationship.  This man can do no right.  He is fighting for a relationship with his child and you are bashing him every which way for no reason.  There is no allegations of abuse or neglect OR that he is a bad father.  The only argument is that child has to breastfeed at least every hour.[/quote]

That is, in fact, opposite to what the WaPo article actually says, so either you’re very poor at reading or you have an agenda.[/quote]

"In a written statement shared with the Post, Ridgway said he has provided “space to both nurse and to pump milk for me to bottle-feed our daughter while she is in my care,” and will continue to support his daughter being fed breast milk past six months “as much as possible, while also supplementing with formula only when absolutely necessary.”"

https://www.romper.com/life/breastfeeding-mother-use-bottle-divorce-custody-dispute

[/quote]

You claim the mother is refusing to pump. From the post article:

“Ramirez tried to pump but, at least at first, could produce little milk that way”

That is not refusing, that is trying and failing and trying again to do something you have never attempted.[/quote]

Im sure she tried real hard to do something she never wanted to do.[/quote]

Options

	Disable HTML in this message
	Disable BB Code in this message
	Disable smilies in this message

Review message

Search Recent Topics Hottest Topics