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[quote=Anonymous]OP, it is ok for you to feel whatever you feel.  You don't have to struggle with it.  Accept it.

I was born to be a mom and enjoy every second of raising my kids. The baby years were a delight, the toddler years, ES, MS, HS years, college years...every stage has been amazing.  I would give myself an A++ as a mom.  Am I a good mom or was it easy to be a good mom to my kids because of who they are.

Similarly, my DH says that I am the best thing that has happened to him and I am the reason that he has a great life. Again, does it mean that I am a good wife material or that DH and I are uniquely suited to each other and I am lucky to be married to him? Maybe, I would have been a flop if I had married someone else.

I was very good at my career and was  given promotions for being exceptional performer several times.  I always wanted to work because I thought that being a SAHM would be a waste of my education.  However, once I had kids, I no longer cared for identifying with what I did at work. When I transitioned to being a SAHM from a WOHM, I had no envy for those who worked, I did not care for the money they had, I did not care about the accolades they got.  My happiness and pleasure was primarily in my mother and wife role. I felt grateful that I could use my college education to guide and educate my kids, to run the household the way that I wanted to, to be the person who shapes my familylife.

OP, You should embrace the joy you get from your career, from your family life, from your hobbies and causes.  Why do you need to compare with anyone? They are living the life that best suits them and you are living the life that best suits you.  If there is something that makes you unhappy, then change it.  The power is in you to live the life that you want. You should not think that you have to be with your kids 24/7, if that is not what you  feel good about.  There is nothing wrong with not wanting to spend all your time with your kids if that is not your tea. 
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