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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]1) On the constant pumping: you can’t sustain this forever.  If breastfeeding is important to you, you need to prioritize sleeping enough to not tank your supply.  If DH actually cared about breastfeeding, he should also be ensuring you are getting a reasonable amount of sleep, which includes helping with at least one feeding overnight, whether that is a last feed before he goes to bed or an early morning feed before work

2) For food: you can eat healthfully without spending all day in the kitchen.  You need to change your routine.  Make a sheet pan meal that you can eat over several days for lunches.  Do overnight oats or bake whole-grain muffins once a week so that you have easy carb options.  Do hard-boiled eggs en mass or bake a frittata for a fast protein.  Make bulk trail mix with assorted nuts and seeds and keep it next to the chair where you nurse, add a bowl with oranges/bananas/apples and a trash can for peels, along with a supply of water bottles that you replenish every few days, or a water pitcher that you refill every morning.  Instead of making yourself salads, prep a huge tray of fresh cut veggies with hummus or a greek yogurt dip and just snack from the tray right out of the fridge until it’s all gone.  Similarly, prep a bunch of fruit (rinse and dry berries, grapes, pre-slice melon). And snack on it as you go. You no longer have three square meals.  You have dinner as a family and then a snack every time you nurse all day.  And DH should absolutely be taking on more of these cooking tasks than just dinner.

3) For workouts:
It’s totally reasonable to want to get back into a workout routine, but he needs to be flexible.  He can workout at lunch and then eat while he answers emails on the clock.  He can put the baby in a carrier and take a power walk around the neighborhood. He can do a 15 minute cardio routine in the morning and do strength training in the evening.  The problem is not that he wants to work out, it’s that he is putting it on you to be flexible to make that happen.  At this stage of parenting, with the pumping schedule you describe, you cannot be any more flexible than you already are.[/quote]

This is good and reasonable advise![/quote]

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