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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Heavy apps is the same thing as tapas. It's a meal.

I don't know why people are so confused.[/quote]

They've apparently never had dim sum, tapas, small plates, high tea, maze, heavy apps, etc. I guess they don't get out much and think everything has to be a full meal.[/quote]

Dude, “cheese balls, salad, ham and cheese roll ups, charcuterie” are not tapas. This is not mezze (I assume that’s what you meant). And it is nothing close to dim sum (which is breakfast btw). I’ve actually lived in country that serves this type of plate, and you’ve grossly misunderstood what it actually is. It’s not cheese roll up. That’s just a grown up lunchable. OP may like adult lunchables but it doesn’t make it dinner[/quote]

I completely agree. PP here who doesn’t think it’s dinner. I have lived in Spain and I have lived in Greece, and believe me, this is not tapas or mezzo.  It’s just food-like filler substances.[/quote]

In Germany "Brotzeit" is a thing. A dinner thing. Where you have bread, cheese, coldcuts, some pickles, radishes, or veggies, hard boiled eggs, etc. It's delicious.

OP said she had hot and cold foods, including meatballs. To me, that is dinner.[/quote]

That is hilarious bc the only comparison that I can make to American hospitality culture is German. They are both objectively terrible. Germans are not known for their hospitality or food culture with good reason 
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I'm sorry you've never met the right Germans. What a pity and you're missing out. And anyone who thinks they don't have a food culture is truly ignorant. Or at least very American.[/quote]

I didn’t say that they don’t have a food culture but that it’s not a good one. Rather, there’s a reason why it’s not heavily exported. Germans do drinks very well — beer, wine, etc. they also are great at outdoor activities—nature walks, are my fav. I did a wedding in Germany. I love the walk through woods tradition. And they do art! But they are not top bins at food. Sorry [/quote]

I lived in Germany for years. You have no idea what you're talking about. "Doing a wedding" is not going to introduce you to their wonderful food culture any any way shape or form. You are talking out of your rear end saying "it's not a good food culture."

And actually it's food cultures. Because the food culture up north is going to be different from the food culture in Bavaria. Both with many delicious options. And fantastic, fresh produce. Germans eat by the season. They have amazing cheeses, yogurt, and dairy. Their meats are incredible. Sauerbraten, for god's sake. Pork and fish.  Spaetzle. Wonderful cakes, not as sickly sweet as American.

And no one makes better bread. Sorry, not sorry.

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So you missed the point entirely in my original post. German hospitality and American hospitality is very on par, with both being subpar to other cultures know for heavy hospitality. Sorry, but it’s 100% true. The hospitality in Germany is not the same as you get in Egypt or Nigeria, eg. Do they have food culture of their own? Of course. And the merits will be subjective, but Re-read expressly Re: culture of hospitality. It’s just not there. Sorry

And yes, bread is good and plentiful. [/quote]

I'll say it again. Sorry you haven't met the right Germans. i have and they are incredibly hospitable.

What you seem to be caught up on is the amount of food served. I have never had any problems being served plenty of food and drink, more than enough, at any German dinner/party/wedding I've been to, or even just an afternoon visit. Sunday afternoon kaffee und kuchen? You are missing out if you've never experienced that.  And one of the best things about German culture is that when there is a party for a birthday or wedding, people come and stay for a long time, really truly socializing. All the weddings I've ever been to in Germany went on until 2-3 in the morning. And everyone stayed, including the elderly, talking and laughing and giving toasts and dancing. German hospitality is nowhere near what you are stereotyping it as. Your impression based on one wedding is a shallow one.

Now the Brits and the Dutch and the Scandinavians. They might be stingy on the food offerings if you go visit people's homes. But even that is just a matter of who you know. Same in America. I know plenty of Americans including myself and everyone in my family, who will put out way more food and drink than necessary for visitors, and send home leftovers with guests. It's really too bad your circle of friends/relatives are such tightwads. Get out and meet new people!

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