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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Have a third, then he’ll long for the days of two. 
Just kidding.
Most of the solution is time; it gets better.
The rest of the solution lies with your husband, does he see that his attitude is making things more difficult and what can he do to adjust the attitude.
Kid-free time is helpful. With two young kids we usually split the weekend so each person got a good 4-5 hours to do with as they pleased. [/quote]

This.  Give him 4-5 hours on his own say Saturday morning while you take the kids to the park and out to a cheap kid friendly lunch.  Hopefully he can do the same another day.  Maybe that will cheer him up.  And if not, maybe he might want to talk to a therapist (they’re getting cheaper with the internet ones which many insurance companies do cover.)[/quote]

This is a great idea. take to the library, park, restaurant etc... sometimes, being at home makes it worse.
Definitely give him this time and eventually he should do the same and give you some me time as well.[/quote]
1. why should he "eventually do the same". Why can't he do it the following week
2. I guarantee it won't be "eventually". It will be 1 hour at most if he does it, then none because he can't handle it[/quote]

It's not that he CAN'T he simply does not WANT to.

He does not want to spend much time with his kids or anyone else's.

He wants to be childfree and the focus of his wife's attention.

Not support his wife, ensure she has free time, etc.

The kids are likely harder to handle because they are picking up on the unhealthy dynamics and OP and DH have not invested in manners, etc by her own account. But when they sense his pulling back they will act wild to get negative attention rather than none at all. They will act out even more emotionally because of his modeling. Why be nice to be around when pouting, etc. are the power moves in the family?

OP, your picker was broken both when choosing this guy and with choosing your job.

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