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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Don't stay with a spouse who cheats just "for the kids." That's a terrible burden to put on them. [/quote]

How is that a burden on them? So I shouldn't have married either because I married for the kids. Yes, he is wonderful man, but we would have remained boyfriend/ girlfriend if I did not want kids

I guess it's different for those who marry primarily for romantic love. I love my DH very much. But I did not marry him because of that. I married him because I thought marriage was the best institution under which we could raise children. So staying for those children can still make sense if he cheats.[/quote]

I grew up in a family where my Dad cheated on my Mom continuously.  Watching her stay for us, knowing there was no love, no respect, no truth between my parents was very difficult.  I often wondered why my mother didn't respect herself more.  She wasn't doing herself, OR HER KIDS, any favors by staying.[/quote]

That's one story.  There are so many different stories and scenarios.  There are many marriages where there is lots of love and a happy home--but mom or dad cheated once and the kids had zero idea.  Not every cheater is a serial cheater and a horrible parent/spouse/person.

A bad marriage can be many things.  The environment can be very toxic even when there is no cheating on either side.  Yes, in an awful marriage and home environment--a divorce may be in the best interest of the kids.  But, your example is just that: your example.   And, obviously, you are still very bitter about it.[/quote]

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