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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][b]I think it's really bizarre that so many people's arguments for having kids early is because of grandparents. So you're doing this for free childcare? [/b]It really doesn't matter how old my parents are, we see them three times a year. The only people I know that live near grandparents are the ones who had kids in their 20s and couldn't handle it, so they stayed in their hometown and never left. How sad!![/quote]

It's interesting that free childcare is the only benefit of having grandparents that comes to your mind.[/quote]

Yeah, it’s actually really sad. I realized when my parents died that family is everything. My mom cherished the time with her granddaughter — she was the light of her life. Husband’s parents love my kids just as much and really benefit from close relationships with their kids and grandkids. They help elderly people avoid loneliness later in life. There’s nothing like seeing your kids grow up alongside a loving extended family. You can’t replace that. [/quote]

My MIL had my husband right before turning 25. She’s still quite healthy and in her late 60s. You know how often she helps us? That would be never. Ever. In any way. She lives her own life and occasionally visits. When she visits, she treats the house like a hotel and has never actually been alone with the kids. Not even once. I better remind her that family is everything. [/quote]

Your response speaks volumes.  The poster never said a word about "helping."  You turned everything into being about you -- not the grandparents or grandchildren.[/quote]

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