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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]We just live in a very different community and culture than most of you. Most of our friends send their kids to summer camp for 2 weeks a summer at age 7, most families go away childless for a week, grandparents are involved in many families lives... I just can’t relate to a lot of what is being said here.

The child’s grandmother is very close to my children and involved in their life. It’s good for kids to spend time with grandparents. Don’t take something good and make it into something evil. [/quote]

Yes, healthy and confident and comfortable grandparents are excellent caregivers. So are camp counselors, youth group trip leaders, etc. No one is saying kids should be with their parents at all times.

What we ARE saying is that if any caregiver—a grandparent, an aunt, a cousin, a camp counselor—express inability to care for a child at any time for any reason, you listen and you make other arrangements.

Argue with that. Go on, argue with that. I’d love to hear it.[/quote]
I hope your nanny backs out on you last minute because now she’s uncomfortable. When nothing has changed in the agreement. And I hope it costs you lots of money in lost wages.  I’m sure you’ll smile and say “oh a caregiver can back out at any time if they feel unable to care for the child”. [/quote]

SMH. You are a nasty person. [/quote]
Nope. The nasty people are the ones attacking OP. It was a simple turn if the tables. There is NO WAY all the people posting here wouldn’t be upset to be without childcare on short notice. [/quote]

Upset? Sure. But in a “oh man that stinks” kind of way. Because at the end of the day, my husband and I are responsible for our kids. So when life happens—a babysitter doesn’t show up, daycare closes for COVID, the neighbor who was going to watch our kids gets sick—you suck it up and deal. You don’t get mad at your husband for not putting pressure on a CLEARLY UNRELIABLE PERSON to suddenly…what, magically become a reliable person? You don’t pout and whine. You pivot. And you get on with your day.[/quote]
Her dh is leaving her to fix the problem created by his mother. She’s got a right to be upset.  Any other post on this board everyone would chime in with “you have a dh problem” for his lack of communication with his parent. 
She’s pivoting. She’s replanned her trip. You guys are like rabid dogs with the pile on. [/quote]

She said it was a work trip for her DH. He's working. Why does she need to tag along instead of taking care of the kids?[/quote]
Because she wants to. And presumably her husband wanted her along. What is wrong with you? [/quote]

Wrong with me? Who will watch the children while OP galavants around? [/quote]
If you actually read instead of just arguing, it sounds like OP will be galavanting with her kids. [/quote]

No, make this miserably trudging at the injustice of having to be with her own kids.[/quote]

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