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In part, yes. Another key reason is that my working allows me to tell DH to go jump in a lake.  My mother, and my grandmother before her, were frustrated at times with their lack of "hand" in their marriages.  My DH can't make any decisions without my concurrence, because I make more than half the money. He can't just come home one day and say the family is moving because he took a new job. He can't make major purchases without my say so. We have a real partnership, not based on benevolence or emotion.[/quote]

I also find this post troubling.  I am sorry that your marriage is based on the fact that you bring home a paycheck and can hold it over your husband.  I'd also be curious to see where your marriage is in 10+ years. [/quote]

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NP. I make about 25% more than my husband.  I agree that it is important that a woman be able to support herself and be able to walk away if the marriage goes bad.  I agree that it is important that the financial decisions be ones based on partnership.  I like the idea that we have two incomes because it makes us more financially stable. It makes us better able to save for retirement and for our kids' college.

We've been married 19 years.  We love and respect each other. We take care of each other.  It's a marriage of equals, not a marriage in which either partner can hold anything over the other. [/quote]

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