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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I was probably one of those women.  You're right that it was hard for my DH to put them to bed without me.  You can try and unpack why it was -- perhaps my DH could have been more helpful -- but like many things, there were many factors involved -- nursing to sleep (initially) led to a mommy preference.  And kids like routines, they don't like changes in the routine.  Could we have made an effort to get them to like Daddy putting to bed too?  Sure, but we're both tired at the end of the day and changing up the routine (when one routine worked well) was just not the priority list, just so I could go out a couple times a month.

Also I was just spent at the end of the workday, so a weekday dinner or drinks date really wasn't that appealing.

My kids are much older now so I don't have a dog in this fight.  Now I leave whenever I feel like it.  You should realize that the time that this is a problem is short, and as long as your friends are willing to get together other times, it's really not worth making a big deal out of it.  Otherwise, you're just being smug that you have an easy home routine.  [/quote]

We put so much pressure on women; you’ve got to have the impressive job, have the well behaved kids, have the amazing marriage and sex life, have the big group of girlfriends you go out with. If you can’t do it all we say you aren’t prioritizing your needs and are failing. Maybe we could give women some grace so we can admit we are tired. It was a long day at work, the kids aren’t sleeping well, marriage has been challenging lately, maybe we are too drained from the day to meet up for dinner. All of this pressure to do womanhood “right’ in the modern era is so unfair to women and I think it is a good idea to practice some empathy. [/quote]

+1[/quote]

And this pressure fosters competition between women, too, which is useless.  [/quote]

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