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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Honestly, men are falling behind in every single factor.  It's crazy.  So many men are just completely checking out, giving themselves up to a life of video games, porn, and maybe some low income job to collect a paycheck.  It's extremely sad and concerning.

I think a lot of times women are just tougher.  Females have a much higher infancy survival rate and just seem a lot more capable of handling BS, be it physical, emotional, mental, whatever.  They just kind of... adapt.

There's always been slogans about "women are tougher" but over the stress this country has been in for the past 20 years, we're really seeing it be proven true beyond all doubt.  And there's really nothing anyone can do about it, save maybe banning these things like China has done recently. [/quote]

What we are seeing is fear manifesting itself as laziness and detachment. I've been haunted by something a medical professional told me about the male student body at a highly competitive institution of higher learning. He said that each year, they are seeing more men who have never had an intimate relationship. On its face, that is not necessarily a bad thing, but one reason given was fear of fallout from a relationship gone wrong (such as adverse social media) that would "ruin" their future. At the root is anxiety and lack of confidence in communication skills. Remember, these are motivated high achieving men who are so worried about opening up, they would rather not have any relationships and instead turn to porn.

As this thread shows, we still want to tell makes to stop being snowflakes and to toughen up any time they struggle. This attitude makes it less likely that those in need of help will seek it.

Remember, it's not about whether one gender is better or stronger than another. We should be concerned about developing healthy empowered individuals in elementary school and beyond. They aren't "weak" for struggling, but that's the message they are receiving, so they check out.  [/quote]

It is true that a lot of it is fear, but that's the thing- the solution IS toughening up.  Part of it is accepting that rejection WILL happen, inevitably, and it's fine.  You'll be okay.  If you ask someone out and they say no, you'll still be standing.  If youre relationship ends and your heart is broken, you'll be okay.  This seems to be something most women have grasped, that rejection is a necessary part of life, but young men seem completely stymied by.  We have coddled young men for the past couple decades and it's completely backfired.  The solution is actually teaching young men that they CAN handle things, that they NEED to be tough and somewhat stoic, and that failure is a part of life and perfectly fine.  As it stands now, we seem to be herding them into further and further incompetence and alienation.  And it's sad.[/quote]

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