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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I'm very glad my mom didn't divorce my dad who is in academia. We had a simple life in a small town but they invested well and now get to travel and have nice cars. He was an amazing father and was present growing up- I had many fun afternoons in his office playing with his typewriter or hanging around the college..

They will celebrate their 50th wedding anniversary this summer. My brother and I are still very close with them- we all vacation together.

OP you don't respect him because you value money, ambition, upward mobility etc. If you read about what makess people happy in the long run- it's not these things. It's family and relationships.

https://news.harvard.edu/gazette/story/2017/04/over-nearly-80-years-harvard-study-has-been-showing-how-to-live-a-healthy-and-happy-life/[/quote]

Your dad had a job. You say it is about relationships//she does not feel she has a partner. That equals a lack of a relationship. This is not just about money. Yo can tell from the post that there is no love here…or it is gone. A bad relationship or lack of a relationship is not good. Your post is irrelevant to her situation.[/quote]

Op here: if he stayed in academia, I would've been so much happier. I encouraged him to stay. But no, he didn't want to play department politics, he didn't want to take &^$# from anyone and be his own boss. Well, he is not his own boss. I don't call "doing whatever I want even though it impacts my family" being "your own boss". Our kids see it and they are starting to ask questions. Why is Mom always on pick up/drop off duty? Why is mom the one booking vacations? Why is mom the one arranging house repairs, take us to a doctor, buying groceries? What does our Dad actually do? Oh, he own his own business. Well, where is it? We don't live in a "small town", we live in DC. It is expensive to live in this area. I offered to move. He declined but his "business" is here.[/quote]

Wait how many kids do you have OP?[/quote]

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