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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]According to your logic, children shouldn’t do any chores. If my spouse and I buy a house, they shouldn’t have to do chores because they didn’t buy the house. If we buy a car, they don’t have to clean it because they didn’t buy it. If we buy their clothes, they don’t have to do laundry. Are we forcing these tasks on them too because we aren’t paying them? How do they differ from babysitting? You can call babysitting whatever you like, but there’s nothing wrong with asking older siblings to help with taking care of the younger ones as long as they’re not substituting for the parents. It’s a life skill. It teaches empathy, child rearing, and responsibility. So many new parents struggle to take of children because they have no previous experience. [/quote]

A PP already explained this.

P.s.: do your younger children have EXTRA chores too. Some of you seem obsessed with “preparing” first born kids only.[/quote]

Me again. “Do your younger children have EXTRA chores too ???” [/quote]

It sounds like by EXTRA chores, you mean being thoughtful of other people in the home, and no, my youngest didn’t do this the way the older kids did.  Youngest children are notoriously spoiled.

I have no idea how people with only one child keep from spoiling their children.  I did spend a lot of 1:1 time with my youngest in the years before he started school, and we pretty much did whatever he wanted.  If we were going to go to the zoo or the playground, and he wanted to go to the zoo, then we went there, and we walked around wherever he wanted to go.  I fixed him whatever he wanted for lunch as long as we had it, and it was relatively easy.   Fortunately, that was only a few hours a day for two years.  I am not sure how a child would turn out if he had this his entire life.  Probably, you would have to send an only child to some kind of group childcare.[/quote]

How is this spoiling a child? There’s nothing wrong with following a child’s lead. It’s not like you had to change your plans for your child. Tbh, PP you seem to think children are a nuisance.[/quote]'

How did you get that?  I don't think they are a nuisance.  But if I have more than one, then I might say something like, "we will see the giraffes first, then the elephants next."  Or "everyone is having turkey sandwiches for lunch today because they are Andrew's favorite.  Tomorrow we will have grilled cheese."  With one, I just kind of followed his lead and did whatever he wanted to do nearly all of the time.

Because when there is just one adult and one child, only a crazy person would make their child see the giraffes when she really wanted to see the elephants or eat turkey when it's just as easy to make the grilled cheese she really wants, or, to use pp's example, to be careful with the scissors when she is the only one in the room.

So, yeah, my youngest is not as thoughtful of other people as the older kids are.  He is still a nice boy, but he is a little lacking in consideration.

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